Change isn’t always bad…
‘Growth’ is defined as, “the process of increasing in physical size”.
So what about ‘spiritual growth’ ?
I’m far from religious, but I do believe in God. I f*** up (sin) daily, as we all do. We all f*** up, everyday all day, but still have the audacity to judge the next. But our spiritual growth is not solely on religion, it has much to do with building ourselves up morally and placing more emphasis on our values.
Our morals play a drastic role in our relationships. I don’t know one successful person, that became successful on their own. I welcome correction, so anyone, please chime in… When we’re viewed as someone that is unbecoming, in a matter that is against someone else’s morals, it causes friction. By placing that emphasis on what we value, gives us a purpose. We usually handle or business when it comes to maintaining our ‘valuables’, right?
I do my best not to hold myself above anyone else, but let’s be realistic, one too many people need assistance with their “humbleness” (and yes, I made a word up). I’m going to let someone know when they’re f***ing up and I expect the same in return! Correct me if I need correcting. How do I get mad at someone that wants to see me do something right? Or even took their own time to pay attention to how f**ed up I am.
But remember, there are people who are envious of you and what you value…
They want that happiness, security, love, relationships, etc. Whatever puts a smile on your face or places you in your comfort zone, is what others want when they’re struggling in those areas of life. What they fail to realize is that, they need to reevaluate their morals, values and lifestyle. “Why am I so unhappy?”, is the common question.
We become unhappy when we lose control. Everyone wants to be in control, but have no idea of how to control ‘self’. How do you expect to control a situation, when you can’t control yourself? We have to ask ourselves, “what’s my purpose?” If your purpose still leaves you unhapoy, then that’s not your purpose… Our purpose is based on our morals and what we do to morally maintain what we value.
Do you do things for other people to help them or yourself (personal gain/favors)? Most fail to realize, but ‘Option A’ eventually forces ‘Option B’ when you’re sincere about your selflessness. The barter system is real when others recognize our genuine sincerity with wanting to be there for them. Typically, help is reciprocated some type of way. And it’s because they feel obligated within themselves to do for you. ‘Help’ should come natural when we see someone in need. It should never be looked at as an opportunity to take advantage of someone or glorify ourselves.
If you’re not selfish with anything else, be selfish about bettering yourself. You’ll be accused of ‘changing’, being ‘stuck up’, ‘having your sh*t together’, etc. All of the things the next person is struggling with figuring out. But rather than them asking or watching to see how you’re doing it, you become a target, rather than a source of guidance. They’re frustrated with their life, no need for you to be frustrated for having some of your sh*t together.
Keep pushing and loving yourself/those that love You! Love is in your heart, not between your legs… Learning to love yourself makes loving everyone else, just that much easier.